The Perfect Spa Day At Home From Head To Toe

It’s very important to take some time out of each week for yourself. If you’re ever feeling down or overwhelmed a spa day at home is the perfect remedy. It costs less, you don’t have the stress of going out in public, and it’s a way to show yourself care and love. I’m going to walk you through my perfect home spa day routine from head to toe. Put on some soothing music, grab a delicious drink, and enjoy!

Dry brushing

Many people don’t know about dry brushing (I found my dry brush at Ulta). This is something you are going to want to do before your bath, the skin must be dry. Start from the bottom of your legs and work your way up using upward strides multiple times. This is going to help exfoliant dead skin cells, relieve stress, unclog pores, and even fight against cellulite.

Run a warm bath with beneficial additives

There is nothing like soaking in a nice warm bath, accompanied by a ice cold drink and some relaxing music. Adding about two cups of epsom salt to your bath water is going to help ease your tensed up muscles; it is also known to draw toxins out of the body. Mix in around a half cup of baking soda, this is going to to provide skin softening, anti-fungal properties to your water. Lastly I like to add in a generous amount of essential oils to the water for aromatherapy. If you are looking for a stress relieving experience I recommend lavender oil. If you have headaches or aches in general I use peppermint oil, but go easy because too much of this oil can be irritating. If you’ve been fighting a cold add eucalyptus oil to your bath, it will help ease a sniffy nose.

Make sure you drink plenty of water during and after your detoxifying bath routine, the combination of salts and baking soda can make you sweat a lot.

Hair Care

Start by cleansing your hair with a good moisturizing shampoo, massaging your scalp with your fingertips (not your nails), and rinse with warm water to keep the hair cuticle open. Follow by lathering your hair generously with a nice hair mask or deep conditioner, I like to let mine sit while I continue the rest of my bathing routine. This time rinse your hair in cool water to close up the cuticle and lock in all the moisture from the hair mask.

Face Time

Gently cleanse your face with your favorite cleanser by using soft circular upward motions with your fingertips. Once you rinse your skin apply a light facial scrub using the same soft motions (do not use exfoliants that have a very abrasive grit, this could cause micro tears in the skin). Rinse your face and gently pat it dry, then generously apply your favorite face mask that complies with your skin type. If you have oily, breakout prone skin try using a charcoal mask; for dry skin use something moisturizing like an avocado mask.

The Body

Start off by cleansing your body with your favorite soap or body wash, I like to use wash clothes because over time loofahs can build up bacteria. After bathing, exfoliate your body with a gentle exfoliant to get rid of build up and dead skin cells, I recommend doing this once or twice a week. On the days I exfoliate I like that to be the day I shave, I feel that you get a cleaner shave and the blades can also work as an extra exfoliant getting rid of any dead skin cells left behind. Many people choose to use shaving cream which is absolutely fine but I prefer using conditioner to rehydrate the skin. If you are a fan of Lush they offer many scents of “in shower” body conditioner which is also a nice treat to top everything off at the end.

Foot Care

It’s very important to take care of your feet, especially if you’re on them all day at work. Give yourself a luxury foot massage with a hydrating exfoliant. About two to three times a month I feel that it is a good idea to go over your heals and anywhere on your feet that you develop calluses with a pumas stone (I buy the purple one they sell at Sally’s). Just be careful not to pumas your feet too much because it will leave them extremely sore.

After Bath Routine

After you get out of the bath and pat off dry there are a few little extras you can add on to make this experience extra special. The skin on your face is so fragile so it’s very important to use a toner, eye cream, and moisturizer. Don’t forget to moisturize your neck, the skin is fragile in that area and is very wrinkle prone. Spritz a leave-in conditioner in your hair to keep it protected from heat and nicely hydrated (Pravana Nevo Intense leave-in conditioner is my all time favorite). If you choose to polish you toenails let them completely dry, then lather your feet up with a rich body butter and put on some cozy socks to lock it in.

Caring for your nails

Finger and toe nails because they can be one of the dirtiest parts of your body. I like to keep my nails clipped short and filed smooth to avoid capturing bacteria and grime. If you love a pop of color push back those cuticles and glaze a beautiful shade overtop, followed by a top coat to prolong the wear. I prefer a gel polish because it lasts a lot longer than regular nail polish. After drying, hydrate your cuticle line with a nourishing cuticle oil to avoid pesky hangnails (I recommend polishing your nails after your bath to prevent chipping)

I hope you enjoyed my version of a perfect spa day at home. Self care is very important when it comes to your mental state, it’s a way to show yourself that you love yourself. I would love to hear in the comment section how you enjoy a home spa day! What’s some of your favorite tips and tricks?


Escaping A Narcissistic Relationship

How to spot a narcissist

Often times narcissist will wear a beautiful mask so it’s hard to decipher who they really are. The last thing you want to do is get caught up in a narcissistic relationship, it can become mentally damaging. Here are some red flags on how to spot a narcissistic person.

• They will often play the victim when something has gone wrong. No matter what they will blame someone or something else for the situation. They do not own up to nor apologize for when they are wrong.

• They like being the center of attention, they will tend to talk about themselves a lot. They also like to talk down about others to lift themselves up, if it means throwing someone else under the bus to gain some spotlight, they will do it. Be careful who you trust with information.

• They lie and twist the truth. They want people to believe their version of a story and will usually create false statements or make things out to be way more dramatic than they really are. If they get caught in a lie they will either create more lies to back themselves up or turn the tables on you and make you out to be a bully.

• They put themselves before anyone else most of the time. All they care about is what they want and will do anything to get it even if it hurts other people. Consequences do not matter to a narcissist in the moment.

• If you try and cross them, you have become a target. Narcissistic people are not good at letting things go, if you try to stand up to them they will get defensive really quick. It’s very common for them to talk against you to other people and make you out to be a villain to make themselves feel better.

How to escape a narcissistic relationship

From personal experience, it’s not going to be easy. Unless they dismiss you from their life get ready for all hell to break lose before you are set free. When you reject a narcissist or call them out on their wrongs they are going to get extremely defensive and fight dirty. They are going to want everyone to know that you have hurt them so get ready for slander. They will say anything they can to try and turn the table on you and make the ending all your fault, but do you know what? It’s going to be ok.

I stayed in narcissistic relationships with people for years due to fear of how they would react. The longer you tolerate it, the longer you will live without peace. I advise trying to quietly and peacefully “fading” yourself out of the relationship. However, if it’s a romantic relationship, it’s going to be a lot harder to leave quietly.

In romantic situations the best thing to do is bite the bullet and cut it off cold turkey, run! Yes they are going to go crazy, they may try to turn your friends against you (but real friends will realize the truth), and they may even relentlessly try to contact you. Do not respond and do not let their tactics of retaliation get to you. Time will pass and eventually they will give up, but if you feed into them you are giving them exactly what they want, attention.

How to heal from a narcissistic relationship

• The best thing you can do is cut all ties with this person. Block their number, block them from all your social media accounts, eliminate all forms of contact with them.

• Don’t entertain the gossip. If you’ve made them mad people probably know about it by now. Do not bring this person up in conversation, and if they are spoken about to you avoid the topic. Don’t feel like you are being mean or rude if you clearly say “I’d rather not talk about them” and change the conversation. If someone is super nosey and persistent about the topic, leave the conversation immediately. Talking about it will only make things worse because words are easily twisted.

• Move on with your life with your head held high. Don’t worry about what other people are saying, I know it’s easier said than done, but over time this will pass if you don’t entertain it. They have already stolen enough of your peace, don’t let them have anymore.

The longer you stay in a toxic relationship with this type of person the more of a toll it can take on your mental state. It may take time to overcome some of the mental abuse (because in my opinion that’s what it is). I have heard that you can pick up traits from the people you are around the most. In order to recover from the mental toll this relationship has taken on you I high recommend practicing positive behaviors. Look for the good in all things, help people other than yourself, and aways try to be positive. It will take time, but time itself can heal you from any damage done by that person.


Steps To Finding Yourself

Have you ever sat there and wondered “who am I and what am i doing with my life”? If you have you are not alone. There comes a time in everyone’s life where they become unsure about their choices and desires in life. I also hit that point a year ago when I made a huge career change at age 30. I had no experience in anything but hairdressing. I was terrified and honestly… im still very nervous if I’m making the right choices. In this blog post I want to help you reveal to yourself where you are in life right now, where you want to be, and what you could do to make the changes.

Finding out all the sources that potentially trigger your mental health is vital. These are the things that constantly bring you down, make you nervous, bring you sadness, and even anger. It’s best to either distance yourself from these factors or learn better ways to deal with them if you can’t eliminate them.

I’m all about making list, I feel like it helps you see the whole picture when things are written down. I advise you to sit down and write out the things that are complicating your life, cross off the ones you can completely let go of, and write out different solutions for the ones you can’t. Here are some examples of things that might be negatively effecting you:

• Hating your job. Being somewhere that makes you miserable is not worth the money, trust me. You’re going to be spending more time with these people than your own family so make sure you find a job that brings you joy. Sometimes having to cut back financially is worth it, I will write a separate post on this topic in the future.

• Being in a toxic relationship. Whether it’s with a partner, family member, or friend, this is one factor that you need to cut ties with. Have you ever heard the phrase that you become like the people whom you’re around the most? If you’re surrounded by negative people, that’s all that is going to come from that relationship- negativity. Sometimes people can change, and I highly believe in forgiving people, but that doesn’t mean you have to be around them if they bring you down.

• Cluttered or stressful surroundings. If you are in an environment that stresses you out then it’s time to make some changes. Start by decluttering your home, clutter can trigger stress dramatically. Also make sure that any media watched or listened to in your home is positive and uplifting. “If you take in good, you radiate good.”

What are the things that make you feel alive? What are the good things that you think about often? Especially the ones you think about right when you wake up or go to sleep. These are your passions, the things you really love.

Sit down and make a list of all the things that make you happy and things you want out of life- big or small. Here are a few inspirational examples:

• Family & friends- these are the people you need to surround yourself with. The people in your life who lift you up are the ones who really love you, make time for these people.

• Your dream job (dreams can become reality if you work hard enough!).

• Your hobbies. It’s important to make time for yourself and do things that you enjoy. Hobbies can inspire and motivate you which will make you a more joyful person.

• Your Faith. Not all people are religious (and I totally respect that) but if you are, never forget to put God first. He loves you more than anyone and he knows the desires of your heart. Spend time in prayer, this will result in thankfulness.

• Your health. Making your health a priority is so important because every single thing you put in your body affects it. If you are eating poorly and not exercising it has the potential to throw your whole system out of whack and leave you feeling horrible. Having a clean diet and exercising will make a huge difference in your quality of life.

Your list contains the people you should surround yourself with and the things you should strive to accomplish. No dream is too big nor too small! what are your goals and dreams? Who do you aspire to be? It is hidden within you and you can make anything possible if you’re willing to put in the work.

Disclaimer: I do not work in the medical field. My blog is all strictly my opinion and is based off my own struggles with mental illness; my posts are personal suggestions that i use for a happier life.


Smells Like Clean Spirit

Life can be chaotic, between work and family it’s super easy to fall behind on housework. When your space is cluttered you’re more likely to become frustrated and anxious. I want to share with you my top 5 tips on how to incorporate housework into your hectic weekly schedule, without becoming overwhelmed.

1. Having Daily Tasks

I say “tasks” because it sounds a little more enticing than “chores”, sometimes it’s the small things that change the mindset. I like to have three tasks that gets done daily- for me personally it’s making the bed, loading/unloading this dishwasher, and putting a load of laundry on to wash/dry. It’s best to choose three simple tasks that don’t take a lot of time, that way you don’t get overwhelmed but still manage to get things crossed off your list.

(Some of my favorite cleaning products!)

2. Focusing on One Thing at a Time

Trying to take on a million things at once when you’re already stressed out is never a good idea. Breaking things down chore by chore (or room by room) helps you get things done more thoroughly without becoming overwhelmed. Don’t forget to take breaks and drink plenty of water!

3. Kick the Clutter!

I’m a recovered “clutter bug” and have been on a minimalistic journey for the past two years- by far one of the best changes I have ever made in my life. If there is an item in your house that is expired or broken toss it! If there are items that are still in good shape but do not fit you or doesn’t serve a purpose in your life, donate or sell it! I highly recommend trying a quarterly declutter and get rid of things that are taking up space and collecting dust in your home. Three of my favorite areas to start are:

• Toss all expired food / give away unexpired food that you are not going to eat.

• Declutter your closet at the start of each season. Yes it’s time consuming but if it does not fit or if it’s torn it’s taking up space.

• Get rid of expired beauty products. Sometimes we forget makeup and hygiene products have a shelf life. You don’t want to get an infection using old mascara! Also don’t forget to clean your brushes and sponges, they harbor bacteria.

I love Mrs Meyers! It smells amazing and its safe!

4. Once a Month Deep Cleans

I already know some people are probably thinking “only once a month?!” But I’m just being real here; when you’re fighting mental illness on top of working a job there are some chores you just don’t make time for. Anywho, choose a one day out of each month to devote to the “big stuff” like mopping, wiping down walls, baseboards, etc. I know these are the things no one wants to do but you will feel so much better once you do!

5. Don’t Be Afriad To Ask For Help

Whether you’re working a full time job or you’re a stay at home mom, everyone needs help sometimes. If there are multiple people living in your household ask each person to help out with one task a week, this will take a huge load off of you (and I promise it won’t kill them to help out, they live there too!).

I hope this post motivates you to go through your home and tidy your space. When I started my journey it was a little stressful at first, but it becomes addictive! I find myself less stressed and more at peace when my space is clean and everything is in its place. I would love to hear your cleaning tips and motivation in the comments!