Steps To Finding Yourself

Have you ever sat there and wondered “who am I and what am i doing with my life”? If you have you are not alone. There comes a time in everyone’s life where they become unsure about their choices and desires in life. I also hit that point a year ago when I made a huge career change at age 30. I had no experience in anything but hairdressing. I was terrified and honestly… im still very nervous if I’m making the right choices. In this blog post I want to help you reveal to yourself where you are in life right now, where you want to be, and what you could do to make the changes.

Finding out all the sources that potentially trigger your mental health is vital. These are the things that constantly bring you down, make you nervous, bring you sadness, and even anger. It’s best to either distance yourself from these factors or learn better ways to deal with them if you can’t eliminate them.

I’m all about making list, I feel like it helps you see the whole picture when things are written down. I advise you to sit down and write out the things that are complicating your life, cross off the ones you can completely let go of, and write out different solutions for the ones you can’t. Here are some examples of things that might be negatively effecting you:

• Hating your job. Being somewhere that makes you miserable is not worth the money, trust me. You’re going to be spending more time with these people than your own family so make sure you find a job that brings you joy. Sometimes having to cut back financially is worth it, I will write a separate post on this topic in the future.

• Being in a toxic relationship. Whether it’s with a partner, family member, or friend, this is one factor that you need to cut ties with. Have you ever heard the phrase that you become like the people whom you’re around the most? If you’re surrounded by negative people, that’s all that is going to come from that relationship- negativity. Sometimes people can change, and I highly believe in forgiving people, but that doesn’t mean you have to be around them if they bring you down.

• Cluttered or stressful surroundings. If you are in an environment that stresses you out then it’s time to make some changes. Start by decluttering your home, clutter can trigger stress dramatically. Also make sure that any media watched or listened to in your home is positive and uplifting. “If you take in good, you radiate good.”

What are the things that make you feel alive? What are the good things that you think about often? Especially the ones you think about right when you wake up or go to sleep. These are your passions, the things you really love.

Sit down and make a list of all the things that make you happy and things you want out of life- big or small. Here are a few inspirational examples:

• Family & friends- these are the people you need to surround yourself with. The people in your life who lift you up are the ones who really love you, make time for these people.

• Your dream job (dreams can become reality if you work hard enough!).

• Your hobbies. It’s important to make time for yourself and do things that you enjoy. Hobbies can inspire and motivate you which will make you a more joyful person.

• Your Faith. Not all people are religious (and I totally respect that) but if you are, never forget to put God first. He loves you more than anyone and he knows the desires of your heart. Spend time in prayer, this will result in thankfulness.

• Your health. Making your health a priority is so important because every single thing you put in your body affects it. If you are eating poorly and not exercising it has the potential to throw your whole system out of whack and leave you feeling horrible. Having a clean diet and exercising will make a huge difference in your quality of life.


Your list contains the people you should surround yourself with and the things you should strive to accomplish. No dream is too big nor too small! what are your goals and dreams? Who do you aspire to be? It is hidden within you and you can make anything possible if you’re willing to put in the work.

Disclaimer: I do not work in the medical field. My blog is all strictly my opinion and is based off my own struggles with mental illness; my posts are personal suggestions that i use for a happier life.